For our son’s second birthday, we decided to do something a little different and not throw a big party that he wouldn’t even remember. We decided to make it a joint vacation birthday with his daddy and we loaded the Durango to the roof and headed to Galveston to stay at a beach house, dog and all. Read More
Happy Father’s Day,
Happy Father’s Day to the man that helped me bring into existence two of the most beautiful, sweet, hilarious toddlers! Today is a day that we get to celebrate the man that you have become. You might have never imagined being dad, daddy, dada, but now you rock it! Read More
When one thinks about Sunday Funday, they probably think boozy brunch, sleeping in, and a great relaxing day. Right? Well, not when you have two tiny people that dictate your life. I heard about a “You Pick Blueberry Patch” pretty close to us that had just opened and memories of blueberry picking with my mom, cousins,aunts and grandma all came flooding in. I remembered my aunt Sheryl meticulously picking over the ripe berries and freezing for us to take back to Florida and how amazing the blueberry crumble was that my mom would make upon getting home. I was so excited to be able to take my family and do the same. Eghhhhh That is the sound a loud buzzer that should go off when I think of things like this! Read More
Yesterday was day 25 of my Whole30 and it started out great. We had our 3 year old’s first dance recital at and it was pretty much the cutest thing ever. On the way to the recital I ate a Lara Bar and an Epic as though it was second nature. I feel like I am finally on the upswing of Whole30.
It took me a while for me to feel “all of the energy” and have “Tiger Blood” that I was promised. I have read that some people get the energy in the first week and I was really beginning to wonder if something was wrong with me or maybe it was all just hyped up and then it hit me on day 22! I woke up before my alarm clock and was up, showered and going before I knew what hit me. I watered garden, fed chickens and made coffee before anyone was up. I know that everyone is different and we all have different experiences but I’m glad that I stuck with it! I hope that people don’t quit their journey if they don’t meet certain goals by the time they think that they should. I think that is the main reason that we are not supposed to weigh ourselves. My husband was not having the same feelings about it all though.
When I first brought the Whole30 idea to my husband, I wasn’t sure if he was going to do it. I didn’t think that he would give up burgers, ranch and most importantly beer; but he did. He gave it all up to join me on my journey to refresh my body, to lose weight and to learn more about food. He gave it all up for 24 days.
Yesterday he came to me and asked if I would be mad if he quit. I told him that I would not be mad because it wasn’t my journey he was quitting, it was his. I am not mad that he quit at day 25, I am so proud that he made it this far! He has been amazingly supportive in helping meal plan, shoppping, cooking and even made me the most beautiful table and light setup to photograph our food!
They love the hardware store
Hubby told me that he still wanted to support me and would continue to eat clean but really just wanted a beer. Luckily, my throat hurt and a beer was the last thing that sounded good to me. I dont want to make it sound like he is some drunk, he just really loves beer. He loves the taste and spends a lot of time researching and studying to brew and taste good beer.
I’m also finally feeling pretty amazing (minus a small cold), and I’m a very stubborn person, so when I set my mind to something, I make it happen. There is no stopping this Whole30 train. I have 5 more days to rock this! I have a great menu planned and we had so much fun as a family shopping and getting all of our goodies to go out with a bang.
I can’t wait until the Whole Foods near us start labeling items #Whole30approved! It sure is going to cut down on people’s shopping time and make it alot easier for everyone to find items that are more whole and a lot less sugary and gluteny.
I realize that I keep talking about Whole30 like something that will end and be done, but that is not the case. I will never be going back to my old way of eating. There is no way I could go back, after knowing what I know and feeling the way that I feel. I am excited to have a glass of wine and eat some popcorn, but this girl is staying clean! I am also very excited to weigh myself and see the results in numbers and not just how I feel. The countdown is on!! Now off to the kitchen to make some yummy burgers on some eggplant buns 🙂
Oh and BTW he is NOT a happy camper today with his choice to drink last night!!!
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Peace, Love and Good food!
I am in a lot of mommy groups, read a lot of blogs and just listen to people I meet. One constant theme in mom conversations and secret groups is Mother-In-Laws. There are some people who have great ones like my sister, some who don’t know theirs for other reasons and then there is my group….those of us that just don’t have the relationship that we would wish with our mother in law. Women are frustrated at how little/too much time thir MIL spends with the grand children, how MILs BABY their sons, how MILs can be so touchy and take everything personal, how MILs don’t follow parents rules and wishes with the kids, and mostly, just being sad or angry at how their MIL treats them. While blogging about about MILs and their behavior, Scarymommy.com actually states “If I ever behave like that, please punch me in the face – and I promise to do the same for you.” After much consideration, I decided to write a letter with a few of my feelings, and others that people have shared with me. Although, after doing my research and talking with other moms, my relationship isn’t nearly as scary as I thought. I have also addressed many of my issues with my MIL (and she got to address some of hers) and we are doing great. I still decided to share a lot of which has been discussed with me. Here I go.
Dear Mother-in-laws everywhere,
Please listen carefully when I say that your daughter in-law (DIL) loves you. You gave birth to her husband, best friend and father to her children (even if they aren’t born yet). You kept him alive long enough to come into her life and hopefully even taught him to put the toilet seat down. All she wants to do is run her household, be a good wife, mom, daughter, sister, friend and daughter-in-law to you! She goes out of her way to make sure to get you good birthday, Valentine’s, Mother’s Day and Christmas presents. She makes sure your son signs the cards, because let’s face it- he didn’t pick out or buy your present- he probably even forgot it was your birthday because he probably also forgot his wife’s birthday. (MEN….Next letter is to husbands everywhere)
Your DIL has tried to be the best for your son and fill your large shoes. She IS NOT trying to replace you! She DID NOT steal your son or take him away from you! He chose her! He is probably a better, more responsible man and father because she pushes him and makes him that way!
She gets to be the bad guy and tell him to pick up his underwear off the floor and remind him that he has an early meeting and maybe shouldn’t drink that beer; while you just get to be mom. The person he can talk to and drink with. The person who can come spend time with him and the kids if she is out of town. If he doesn’t call, call him until he picks up. If he still doesn’t pickup, maybe he’s busy?! Maybe he is cooking dinner or bathing and putting his kids to bed. When you do talk to him, don’t complain about his wife, because no matter how mean you think she is, and even at times he thinks she is, he loves her.
You should love her for the hard work she has done in standing beside your son and the fact that she gave you your grand children, the best gift that someone could imagine giving. And she wants them to be in your life. Imagine that, after all the mean things you have said, snide comments and dirty looks- she wants you around! She wants her children to be around family and know their heritage. She tolerates you telling her how to treat her son, how you show up late, or not at all, or without calling. She looks past the fact that you feed her children whatever you want and the fact that you take everything she says out of context. She puts up with your nasty comments and disregard for her because she loves her family. She does it for her husband and for those precious grand babies!
Stop thinking about your DIL as this person who is so terrible to you and so mean to your son and look at his beautiful life. Look how far he has come with her “pushing” him and how far she has come with him “pushing” her.
Also, look at how she treats other people. Is she sarcastic, joking and opinionated with her mom, sisters and friends?? If yes, realize it’s not personal! If she treats you the way she treats her mom, then be thankful and stop taking things so serious, because she isn’t!
Remember what it was like when you were raising your son and any siblings. It wasn’t easy. I’m sure you had other people who had their opinions on how to do things or how to act, but you just did the best you could. We are all just doing the best we can, without people randomly showing up at our house without a call/text.
The best thing you can do is embrace her and realized that there isn’t a competition. You are not competing for your son’s love or attention. He will always love you and you will always be the first woman he loved but now he has a family to take care of and pay attention to. You should be so proud of the man he has become and the good husband, father he is. The only person that you are hurting with your attitude is you.
Disgruntled daughter-in-law that is not going anywhere
I received a lot more comments, ideas and even some very colorful things girls wish they could say to their MIL, it really had me laughing and realizing how good I have it. I just took the things I heard most and went with it.
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Enough is enough! I feel that as soon as I turned 30, I started to fall apart! My neck, shoulder, and just one wrist hurt, I have a weird dry patch, I am so tired, and I am about 25 lbs heavier than I would like to be! I am sick of looking in the mirror and wondering who is this really pale, jiggly looking naked person in my bathroom?? A beautiful, energetic and happy person I just met told me about the Whole 30. A new way of life that starts with 30 days of no dairy, sugar, gluten, legumes or ALCOHOL. This is supposed to help your body “restore it’s natural balance, heal, and recover. Give your brain a chance to change your tastes, create new habits and find new rewards”. It has been suggested to help with all of these aches, pains and low energy. It has also been suggested that it might help me with some of this post 2-baby weight that won’t get a hint and beat it!
I ordered the Whole 30 bible (Whole 30 by: Melissa and Dallas Hartwig) from Amazon and slowly started mentioning hints to the hubby. By the time the book arrived, I had him convinced that we needed this. We needed to get a kick start and this was the perfect way to do it. We sat down with a calendar and chose our date, April 27th! This gives us enough time to read the books, clean out all the junk in the house (eat/drink it all), obtain some appropriate groceries and get our minds around all of this! It will leave me with a sober, cakeless birthday, a taco/margarita free Cinco de Mayo and a mimossaless Mother’s day; but it will also give us a great wedding anniversary on May 30th with healthier bodies, booze and cake!
I have a lot to learn but I am very excited! I am excited for the recipes in the book, they look amazing! The first part of the book starts by telling us that “This isn’t hard”. I got tears in my eyes reading this. I have overcome many obstacles including death of family and friends, parent’s divorce, car accidents, heart breaks, 2 sucky pregnancies and 2 even suckier births. My two mottos for life have been “if it doesn’t kill me, it will make me stronger” and “go big or go home”, I think they both are very suited for this next step in our life! Everything that I have heard and read have said that we will not go back to our old way of looking at life or food and I am pretty excited!
I have to ask our friends and families to help us with our experiment. Please don’t try to tempt us. There are no cheat days, cheat meals or even cheat bites. For 30 days we will be abstaining from dairy, sugar, gluten, legumes and alcohol. Yes, I said it!! Marshall and I will be sober for 30 days! If you see us near any of these “forbidden fruits”, please remind us of how badly we both want our hot beach bodies back 🙂 Please support us and root us on because it is going to take alot of strength, will power and planning. If anyone would like to join our journey, please reach out to me!
April 27th-May27th!! If you have any other great recipes or tips, please share!
Wish us luck!
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Tonight the hubby and I got my mom and grandmother to babysit and decided to head out on the town. I put on my spanks and got all dolled up. For a tired mom, I would prefer to just sit in my yoga pants and play with my new Cricut machine (and hubby play Play Station), but that just wouldn’t do. We got a gift card to Flemings so we thought it would be perfect. While driving to the restaurant and putting on my makeup (always do in the car to save time), I started to think more about 2015 and what my resolutions would be. Eat healthy, lose weight, save money, be a better wife, be a better mom….wow I must really suck! That can not be! I actually tend to think that I am pretty awesome, but everyone can be better right?!? I came to the conclusion that I would work on it all but instead of them being resolutions, they would just be goals. I’m not this crappy wife, mom, eater that I started to think I was.
Goal 1: Healthy Eating. I am going to Florida in 2 months for my Bachelorette party and I need to be bikini ready. I’m not going to go crazy and cut out everything and eat lettuce for two months. I am going to look up healthy recipes, plan my meals and try to stick to the outer portions of the grocery store (the isles are where the crap is). If I have a cheat day (or lobster Mac and Cheese at Flemings on a date night), the world won’t end. I just have to try my hardest to cut out the $hit. Which means that if I want a sandwich, lose one piece of bread. If I want a burger, lose the bun. If I want chips, get baked instead of fried and so on. Drink more water and more fresh veggies. Portion out my green smoothies in ziplock baggies in the freezer so that I can make quickly on the go in the morning. Eating healthy is all about planning and organization. It’s the nights I don’t have something healthy planned that we end up eating crap.
Goal 2: Save money. We have our wedding in May, which means lots of money going out! This goal is tied very closely to #1 because most of our money goes to food. There are a few simple ways that I can really work on this. Buy in bulk. Go to Costco and get large quantities of meat to plan my meals around. I also buy all paper products, diapers, wipes, chicken stock, tomato paste, canned tomatoes in bulk because they will get used! It is cheaper in the long run. The second sure fire way to save money is by meal planning. Tuesday night I will make tacos (#TacoTuesday) and make more ground beef than I need. Then I can either use the meat the next day for breakfast tacos, taco Salad, Chili or Shepherd’s Pie. When meal planning, don’t just think about one meal, think of 2 or 3. It helps cut down on waste and saves you time. Again, planning is key so that we don’t end up just going out to eat, when we can cook healthier and less expensive meals at home (usually taste better too).
Goal3: Be a better wife. Disclaimer: We have our wedding in May, but in our minds and hearts are all ready married. He has called me his wife since day 1. I have come to realize that just like most great things in life, relationships are WORK. For me, I find myself wondering why doesn’t he do this or that. Why doesn’t he say nicer things or bring me flowers. Well….do I say nicer things to him? Do I bring him a case of beer for no reason? I DO NOW! If I want him to send me a random text telling me he loves me or make the bed, I have to do random acts too. Men are simple, they think about a few things. Cars, work, women, their kids, video games, beer…and that is being generous and leaving out what they think about most. They need to be guided or told what to do. I’m not saying this is a rude way or that men are stupid, they aren’t. They are just wired differently. When I see women that are older and single and looking for the perfect man, I want to tell them, “he doesn’t exist”! We are not perfect and neither are they. You want a good boyfriend/husband/wife/spouse? Be one! I know how I want to be as a wife, I just forget sometimes. I look at the bags under my eyes because my 5 month old has kept me up half the night, I look at the laundry piled up, or the dishes that need to be put away. or the ceiling fan that has a light bulb out and I just forget to be a nice loving wife. I just want him to come home and do it all while I go get a pedicure. That isn’t reality. In 2015 I am going to remember that he got up and went to work at 5:30 and he is tired too. If I get him his favorite beer at the store, maybe he will change that light bulb if I ask nicely (and then ask again 3 times 😉 ). When we are young, our parents teach us to treat others the way that we want to be treated. Well, love the crap out of your spouse and hopefully it will come back to ya!
There it is. Three goals to work on. Getting them out on paper and sharing them with everyone is really going to make me accountable!! If you see me out eating like crap or being mean to my hunny, give me a little pinch will ya? 🙂 If you make goals or resolutions, make them small and manageable, don’t go crazy. Life is too short.
If you have any good healthy recipes, ways to save money or be a better wife PLEASE SHARE! I’m open to all the help, advice I can get. Happy 2015!